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Desiree Spierings: sexologist

Desiree is the Director of Sexual Health Australia and is a qualified and experienced Sex Therapist and Relationship Counsellor. Desiree answers female related sex questions for ninemsn Health. ASK ME A QUESTION QUESTION

Orgasm through intercourse after child birth

Friday, November 18, 2011
"The hormones of labour after a natural birth can leave women feeling incredibly empowered and more confident in their own abilities and their sexuality."
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Question:

Hi, ever since I had my daughter three years ago I have not been able to have an orgasm through intercourse. I can have a clitoral orgasm just not a vaginal one. Is this because of child birth?

Response:

There seems to be a bit of a misconception that women having a caesarean section will have fewer difficulties with sex after childbirth, but it's important to realise that this is usually not the case.

The vagina is really designed to stretch open like a piano accordion and then stretch back to its original position straight after childbirth. The vagina is designed to do this.

Many women after childbirth also discover the hidden treasures of the vagina! So it is not just designed to bounce right back again, but as a result of a vaginal birth there is also an increase in blood supply to the area. This can result in women becoming more orgasmic after vaginal birth.

However, unfortunately you are describing the opposite effect, and when this happens often this is the case when the pelvic floor is very weak after childbirth, which is not uncommon. You can try to exercise these muscles to improve strength and to increase your feelings again.

The hormones of labour after a natural birth can leave women feeling incredibly empowered and more confident in their own abilities and their sexuality. However we also find that when childbirth has been a traumatic experience often it can have the opposite effect.

So although many women find their sex life is better after a vaginal birth, this is not always the case and is often mainly due to the lack of strength in the pelvic floor muscle or psychological issues around childbirth and then the way they may view the vagina afterwards.

For more information please visit the Sexual Health Australia website.


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