Question:

My husband and I have barely had any sex since the birth of our son, five months ago. How can I spice up our sex life?

Response:

It is important you talk to your husband about this. He maybe unsure as to whether you are up for it already and he may be afraid of hurting you, or he feels increased levels of fatigue now that he is having parental responsibilities. Some men also experience some difficulties sexualizing their partner again after having viewed the birthing process.

Letting him know you feel ready to build up your sex life again can give him the reassurance he needs to start pursuing you again.

If he does feel some anxiety about being sexual with you, then start with outer-course options first. This might be giving each other a sensual massage, mutual masturbation, having a bath together etc.

Slowly this will bring back the spark in the bedroom again.

For more information please visit the Sexual Health Australia website.