Question:

I am 30 years old and got married recently. My wife is a virgin and I have very little sexual experience. We have been trying to have a go at it for quite some time but have not managed to do it. We have foreplay and I tickle her and talk dirty and all but she seems not to get aroused as she hardly gets wet.

Response:

The saying goes that sex is natural and therefore it should just all happen. Well if this was true then there wouldn't be a need for professionals like me. It is not uncommon for couples to have sexual difficulties. Most difficulties can be overcome.

I would suggest that the both of you see a sex therapist that would be able to discuss female and male sexual anatomy, male and female sexual arousal cycle, as well as, directly address any fears or concerns you may have. This may be all that you need to be able to commence being sexually intimate. Good education which dispels myths is important.

As you are concerned that this will affect your relationship and the longer these difficulties continue the more likely this will, I advise you to seek help soon. You can be helped. Many people see sex therapist, so you are not alone.

For more information please visit the Impotence Australia website.