Question:

I'm a young guy and have had a few sexual partners, but I seem to have the same problem with them all: penetration sensitivity. I'm quite fine through foreplay and messing around, I can go for hours, but when I start penetrating I can't control myself and cum after a few times.

It really upsets me, and it stops me from picking up girls now, because I know what's going to happen and don't want the embarrassment. I have seen my doctor about this, but the techniques I try don't work. How do I last longer?

Response:

Ejaculating quickly, also known as premature ejaculation is a common problem. Research has shown that between 25 to 30 percent of men will have problems with controlling ejaculation. The most common causes are anxiety or hypersensitivity of the genitals. With hypersensitivity it is usually a combination of both.

I can understand that this makes you want to avoid getting sexually involved as commonly men inform me that it makes them feel frustrated, embarrassed and incompetent.

For some men the exercises work well, for others they need better professional help. There is a lot of appropriate help available. Please ask your doctor for a referral to a sex therapist who specialises in premature ejaculation. The good news is, with a good assessment of the causes, and the correct treatment, most cases can be fixed. Don't give up and get the right help.

For more information please visit the Impotence Australia website.