Question:

In the last few months I've been losing my erection during sex after about 10 or 15 minutes. At the beginning, everything is fine but after a while my partner becomes stimulated and her vagina becomes wet. As a result, I lose traction and pressure on my penis and consequently lose my erection and more often than not, don't climax. Is there a position we can try or something else that you can suggest, that can help with this?

Response:

With the little amount of information I have been given I can only give you very general advice. There may be medical reason why you are losing your erection after penetration and this needs to be checked out by a GP.

Research is clear that many men are diagnosed with medical conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, cardio vascular disease, high cholesterol after presenting to a GP with erection problems. The reason why often the first symptom of these conditions is erectile dysfunction is because the nerves and veins in the penis are smaller than most other parts of the body.

Erection problems can also be a side effect of medications, both prescription and over-the-counter drugs. You may be losing feeling in your penis after penetration because of a medical condition or more likely as a normal response to losing penis hardness.

As I have stated, this is general but very important information. See a GP, if there is a medical condition then early diagnosis usually gives a better outcome. If all is clear then see a sex therapist who will look at if you are experiencing sexual performance anxiety and will be able to assist you. For further support you can either go to www.impotenceaustralia.com.au or call 1800 800 614. It's a free national telephone service manned by trained sex therapists. I must disclose that I am the CEO of Impotence Australia.

For more information please visit the Impotence Australia website.