My wife will often touch herself as we make love and it seems that is really the cause for her enjoyment and satisfaction. Is this normal and does it mean I'm doing something wrong?
First of all, it is common that women touch themselves during sex, including intercourse. It is good to see your wife is able to let herself go and be comfortable with you. However, I think that as this is worrying you it would be good to communicate this to your wife.
One good way to ask her about her sexuality is to offer her the chance to talk about how you would like her to touch you. Ask her to show you and you can show her. Play a game of show and tell, mix things up with touching each other with your toes, lips, tongues, etc. Plan to get sexy. A positive approach to communicating sexual concerns is usually the best way.
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