Question:

I would like to try anal sex (with a woman) but am just wondering which position would be the best or easiest to try on the first go?

Response:

Anal sex is not for everyone. If you have a partner who has expressed interest in attempting anal sex then the following steps may be useful. Do not try a "sneak attack". There must be consent for any sexual practice along with the right for either person to change their mind at any stage of sex.

First, start with external anal play beforehand. With the use of lubricant, gently stroke around the anus moving onto gentle penetration with one finger. If this goes alright, then with your partner's permission you could move onto preparing for penile penetration or using a small dildo.

The three Ps will be helpful. The partner who is going to be penetrated has all the control. They determine the sexual position they want or feel comfortable with. They determine the rate of pace of penetration and the depth of penetration. It is best that you do not thrust; let your partner be in control of this.

Do not go from penetrating the anus to the vagina without first washing the penis and or putting on a new condom, as this will help reduce the likelihood of infection.

For more information please visit the Impotence Australia website.